I would like to think that I’m what some would call a #BossBabe… someone who is kind but tough, sweet but sassy, and friendly but not a pushover. What I really am is a people-pleaser who doesn’t know how to say “no” and someone who hates confrontation.
But I want to be that kind, tough, sweet, sassy, and friendly girl who can handle anything that comes my way, including the occasional (and often uncomfortable) confrontation. I want to be that girl!
I want to be that girl… The one who smiles politely when people look at me, the one who says the positive thing while others are complaining, the one who gives advice from the heart, and the one who tips generously. (Actually, I already tip generously because I appreciate good service.)
I already walk around with a smile on my face, saying hello to anyone I make eye contact with, with the hopes that my friendly smile will cheer someone up. Even when I feel like crap, I can share a smile with someone and it will actually cheer me up. At that moment, it’s like “crap be gone” and my spirits will lift.
And speaking of crap, I don’t like the heaviness in my heart and mind when I join my friends in complaining about this or that, especially when it’s about certain people. Those negative vibes bring me down and make me look bad. It’s a struggle, a challenge, to refrain from talking negatively about others, but it just makes us look ugly. It’s not an attractive quality in a person, much less a friend.
I also try to refrain from giving advice, but when I am asked for my opinion or for my advice, I really do try to give it from my heart. I try to say it in a way that it comes from a place of love, not anger, jealousy, hate, or spite. I often say, “if it were me…”, or “here’s what I would do, but you can take it or leave it…” Or, better yet, help them figure it for themselves by asking questions about what they would like to do. Sometimes just offering an ear or a shoulder, listening and saying very little, will be more helpful.
So are you that girl? Because I’m that girl, or at least I’m striving to be that girl.
Yours Truly,
Vanessa
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